I'm sure you May be familiar with the grim statistics on marriages is not. 45-50% of all marriages ending in divorce in the United States, and unfortunately, this trend is becoming increasingly true for many countries around the world. But did you know that 60-65% of all marriages end in divorce, second, and that when it comes to third marriages, the divorce rate goes up to 70-75 %?
I'm sure you May be familiar with the grim statistics on marriages is not. 45-50% of all marriages ending in divorce in the United States, and unfortunately, this trend is becoming increasingly true for many countries around the world. But did you know that 60-65% of all marriages end in divorce, second, and that when it comes to third marriages, the divorce rate goes up to 70-75 %?
...There are many things that could lead to a marriage to go bad, and then from bad to worse. Obviously this is a list of the different combinations will only be too long to go through this article. But I can guarantee that 99% of all marital problems stem from some basic fundamental issues and underlined, and those are what I go through now.
1). Be aware of and control over their emotions!
Remember that your intense emotions or "feelings" are just a fleeting moment in the here and now and that are generally chemically induced. Emotions are powered by the release of adrenaline and specific physiological response or reaction to a particular mental event or series of events that are usually of short duration. In common terms, your mind might be telling you to react on the basis of the fight or flight reflexes and instincts. Do not let your mind play tricks on you, focus on the bigger picture, and remember that you love your spouse.
Remember that your intense emotions or "feelings" are just a fleeting moment in the here and now and that are generally chemically induced. Emotions are powered by the release of adrenaline and specific physiological response or reaction to a particular mental event or series of events that are usually of short duration. In common terms, your mind might be telling you to react on the basis of the fight or flight reflexes and instincts. Do not let your mind play tricks on you, focus on the bigger picture, and remember that you love your spouse.
...Dealing with emotions are the most difficult and complex aspect of the equation, but it can be very damaging consequences in an attempt to save his marriage. Do not get me wrong, emotions are not all bad in the right context and setting they are very desirable. Our emotions are part of who we are as people, but negative reactions and destructive emotional outburst will end your marriage before anything else will.
Dealing with emotions are the most difficult and complex aspect of the equation, but it can be very damaging consequences in an attempt to save his marriage. Do not get me wrong, emotions are not all bad in the right context and setting they are very desirable. Our emotions are part of who we are as people, but negative reactions and destructive emotional outburst will end your marriage before anything else will.
...2). You must continue to communicate with her fiancé.
Let's face it, marriage is like building a house, it is hard work and takes time, but if you do not have a blue print or plan for the house, and everyone is doing their own thing, then sooner or later you'll end up with a pile of rubble is not house. blue print or plan is your ability to communicate to your spouse and each other. Even if your spouse does not want to communicate as much still to leave open channels of communication for them.
The worst thing you can do is say, "Well he or she does not say, nor am I!" This is a sure way to end your marriage. I'm not talking about talking your husband's ear as they can have a negative impact, but to open and express their thoughts and concerns in a positive and non-combative way. Marriage will never be healed if both parties to close and stop taking each other and start talking now. You can start with small talk, and build from there.
3). Do not Beg crawl or your spouse to stay if they insist on leaving.
This is another big mistake individuals make when trying to save his marriage. Wailing, groveling, and begging your spouse to stay may be very unattractive for anyone. You can expect only two outcomes as a result of begging your husband to stay. 1) Your husband may be turned off and say, "This is the very reason I am leaving, you are just too needy and pathetic!" Ouch! 2) Or May they remain for some time because they feel sorry for you, but how long will it take? Your husband has compassion on you, not a good foundation on which to try to build a solid marriage. So in both cases, you will lose.
to stay humble and stay strong. Your spouse will be attracted to your strength and admire your humility.
to stay humble and stay strong. Your spouse will be attracted to your strength and admire your humility.
...4). Do not tell everyone about the problems in the marriage ...
... especially both sides of the family, in-laws, and friends. Of course, You May Have a mentor or a neutral party that can talk to, because it will be very important for your health, but to avoid disclosure of marital problems with friends and family. This can lead to more pressure being placed on your spouse and marriage and also can lead your husband to say, "Well, everyone knows what is going on, so I might as well follow through with my decision to leave ."
5). Looking for professional advice, be cautious when well-meaning friends and family advice, they could only aggravate the situation
.Even if your spouse will not participate in marriage counseling, you should still do it. This will provide more tools and resources to help you through this rough time. Emotional support is important, especially if it no longer receives from his spouse. After the expert guidance and support will equip you with the right frame of mind and help you avoid many pit falls that so many couples fall in.
Be very careful and well-meaning friends and family advice. Unless you are a professional marriage counselors, you do not jump on everything you say. Remember, being married or having gone through a divorce is not necessary credentials for giving marital advice.
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